> I could have 20 holding pens in the house and they'd still lose their stuff, since the idea that you have to exert even a minor amount of effort <now> by putting stuff in its place to save yourself much more searching effort <later>, is either lost on them, or they just greatly value the present over the future.
That doesn't give enough credit to the original idea. I know it's an exaggeration, but 20 holding pens will totally defeat the purpose. The idea is to have one place in every room where you can put anything. This saves the mental effort of trying to recall what is the place for thing-at-point. There is a place, for all of them, don't think about it. Just dwim it into the holding pen.
I came here to say the same thing. It's something I have been actively working on lately. It's quite an effort to pay attention to the small things, something as simple as making sure I put the mouse into my backpack along with my laptop. But the pay off is enormous ... I get a really strong sense of relief when I do find things more often where they are supposed to be.
You maybe depressed, maybe not, I don't know enough about all that. But meeting a therapist is a big yes. Don't shy away from it. Go consult one.
Having said that, don't punish yourself so much. Most people feel what you are feeling, most of the time. You just went through a big change in your life, and now you are wondering why it didn't help. Maybe you are blaming yourself for making all these changes. But guess what, you were focused enough to get it done, and maybe it didn't pan out. It's too early to say whether it did or not.
It's actually okay for things to not work out the way you want. The real problem is to consciously or unconsciously expect results for everything you do. And then finding fault in yourself when results don't show up. Don't punish yourself by doing that. Let things be for some time. Take pleasure in small everyday things, like making a breakfast that you enjoy. Look forward to things. Don't try to find things to look forward to, instead just look forward to routine things that are part of your life anyway.
Completely off-topic. The article is paywalled, and for once I decided to go down the subscription rabbit hole. I am viewing this in Firefox on Windows. But every "subscribe" button on the WSJ page points to an Apple store page for the "app". WTF?!
Which way would you update our confidence? A: We were so wrong earlier, but now we "know better", due to better measurements, better models and more evidence, so our confidence is higher. B: We have been so wrong in the past, so our confidence is lower.
not for me. I don't know much about the emergence of freshwater, but if I learn at some point that humans were in the Americas 50,000 years ago --- perhaps they used rudimentary rafts? -- I will not be shocked.
I think the GP meant dropping the key wrapped in paper without the parachute. That's what makes it faster and easier to target. Which also answers your question about surprising someone driving a car, since the key won't drift with the wind anymore.
That doesn't give enough credit to the original idea. I know it's an exaggeration, but 20 holding pens will totally defeat the purpose. The idea is to have one place in every room where you can put anything. This saves the mental effort of trying to recall what is the place for thing-at-point. There is a place, for all of them, don't think about it. Just dwim it into the holding pen.