Anyone who lives in a hurricane-prone area like myself (Florida) knows that while forecasts have gotten a _lot_ better, there is still so much room for improvement.
I am not affiliated, but I recommend checking out https://www.forecastadvisor.com/ to see what forecasts are best for your city. I totally changed weather providers and it seems much better now.
'The Secret World of Weather: How to Read Signs in Every Cloud, Breeze, Hill, Street, Plant, Animal, and Dewdrop' by Gooley is a fun read for anyone interested in figuring out weather without a forecast (or to supplement).
> I am not affiliated, but I recommend checking out https://www.forecastadvisor.com/ to see what forecasts are best for your city.
What a great recommendation, it’s sadly US only. I have previously used an app called Climendo which claimed to digest over 15k forecasts and use the most accurate one in my city.
Sadly something like this doesn't exist internationally from what I can tell. I live in Japan and have no idea which sources are good and which are bad.
The local apps pull data from the Japan Meteorological Agency, so does Apple Weather, and so does Carrot Weather since a recent update (though those 2 still give me different results).
Outside of Japan, when I travel, I have no idea so I just leave the Carrot Weather source on Apple Weather, because that at least pulls data from local weather services if available (https://developer.apple.com/weatherkit/data-source-attributi...)
I've been trying to do this with intention myself over the last year. Some things that worked for me:
- Get a dog! Seriously, going to dog bars, dog parks, and even walking the dog are all great opportunities for spontaneous social interactions.
- Group fitness classes can be good, even if you just chat with the instructor before or after class. Going regularly you're bound to talk with some of the other members.
- Arts classes (i.e., pottery) can be good, as it's usually a small group setting and you can chitchat while you're working.
Not the question, but another thing to consider is your body language when you're in those spaces. Try to be cognizant of it and present yourself to being "open" to conversation (especially in a bar setting). By that I mean, looking around, make eye contact, smile at people, don't be on your phone, and don't be afraid to say hi.
Huge +1 to this. It sounds like they may need to switch therapists. I’ve had personal success with therapists that have expertise in CBT, DBT, and IFS.
OP may also want to explore mindfulness/meditation, which has been a huge QoL improvement for me.
Some resources I’ve found helpful:
- Book: Adult children of emotionally immature parents
- Book: How to meditate by Pema Chodron
- Website on DBT: https://dbtselfhelp.com/
- Book: The Antidote: Happiness for people who can’t stand positive thinking
- Meditation Apps: Waking Up, Headspace, Ten Percent. Also, if you don’t like one, try another. They all have distinct styles.
Seriously though, do therapy and hop therapists until one clicks. I read on here once “you can’t read the label from inside the bottle.” This type of work significantly benefits from a good outside perspective.
Also, OP, be kind to yourself and, as another poster said, allow yourself to just exist for a bit
Generally agreed with this, and I had a similar experience.
I think overall it comes down to trying to help them build empathy by showing them that they aren't the only one that will have to interact with what they build, as they are a part of a team.
An easy way to start is, like the parent suggests, with showing "How does making it easier to read or reason about ultimately benefit you?" (e.g., not having to be asked for help by junior engineers). The downside of this is it's kind of abstract, and ultimately a selfish motivator ("what benefits me?" over "what benefits the team?"), as another commenter mentioned.
One option that might be more tangible and team-oriented is to discuss design options as a team. Hopefully in doing so they can understand the complexity in their approach as other people ask questions. If you're able to structure in such a way, one trick here is to separate the design phase from the actual implementation phase. So, whoever designs the approach isn't the one that implements it (within reason -- you could also pair program here, with the whoever designed it as a reviewer and not the primary).
Some of this is also about them realizing what is obvious to them is not obvious to others. One tell here is if they use "why don't you just..." a lot when asked questions.
One phrase I use a lot on my team is "don't be a hero". Heroics in a team setting (willingness to write overly complex features, take on indefinite maintenance of code they wrote so others don't have to reason with it, etc.) are generally detrimental to the team overall. If they find themselves having the need to "carry the team" a lot, you could direct some of their energy/problem solving towards how they could help up-level the team overall or fix team processes.
Anyway, a bit of a ramble, but that's my 2 cents. YMMV.
There was also a ruling last week explicitly overturning certain gun regulation laws. See: New York State Rifle & Pistol Association v. Bruen [0], which overturns a law that has stood since 1911 in New York State. Based on Gallup data [1], 52% of Americans want stricter gun laws, and only 11% want less strict gun laws. The decision makes it much harder to impose additional restrictions, and will require some states to lessen restrictions.
0: https://www.supremecourt.gov/opinions/21pdf/20-843_7j80.pdf 1: https://news.gallup.com/poll/1645/guns.aspx
You’re worried about a law used by responsible gun owners. Criminals won’t apply for a CCW and will just carry anyway. How does the supreme court ruling out more guns into criminals hands to justify your concern?
