I'm a nomad travelling solo so it's crucial for me to be good at socialising. I now consider myself to be quite social and can gel with anyone.
Most of the friendships happen over some common interest or activity like playing sports, dancing, seminars, group tours, etc. If you can get into some hobby or activity that involves other people (common interest) then it is much easy to strike conversations (mutual interest) and make friendships. However, If you can't even start a conversation or keep the conversation flowing naturally then that's a personal issue.
Some tips:
- Smile when you talk. Smile in general if you could.
- Asking questions is the fundamental of converting strangers to friends. Asking question means getting to know person. Ask questions that you are curious about otherwise you gonna bore yourself as well as the person. Personal questions work wonders.
- While travelling I realised most people are not that social and feel awkward starting a conversation with a stranger. I always assume that it's my responsibility to start the conversation so I lead. And, once the conversation starts flowing I see that the other person is actually friendly and interested to know about me as well.
Asking questions is a huge one. I know because I'm so bad at it that I notice how good it would be, I suspect that there's another stripe of awareness at the other end of the spectrum, with a huge gap in between of people who are sufficiently good at it to not notice, but could do better with some awareness.
Most strangers starting conversations with me turn out to be Herbalife peddlers, beggars and similar. So the natural instinct is to move away as fast as possible.
Most of the friendships happen over some common interest or activity like playing sports, dancing, seminars, group tours, etc. If you can get into some hobby or activity that involves other people (common interest) then it is much easy to strike conversations (mutual interest) and make friendships. However, If you can't even start a conversation or keep the conversation flowing naturally then that's a personal issue.
Some tips:
- Smile when you talk. Smile in general if you could.
- Asking questions is the fundamental of converting strangers to friends. Asking question means getting to know person. Ask questions that you are curious about otherwise you gonna bore yourself as well as the person. Personal questions work wonders.
- While travelling I realised most people are not that social and feel awkward starting a conversation with a stranger. I always assume that it's my responsibility to start the conversation so I lead. And, once the conversation starts flowing I see that the other person is actually friendly and interested to know about me as well.