I'm an old MS-DOS / Windows programmer used to Turbo Pascal, Delphi, etc. The old days were simple, in that you compiled code, and gave it to your customers. Everything just works.
Now every time I try to learn something new... there's always a build system in the way, with MSTOICAL it was Autoconf, with switching to Linux, I couldn't get WikidPad to build on Linux, trying to build a lifeboat for Twitter, Python works, but then modules require builds that break.
Is it possible to have a system without Make or the like?
Alternatively, any good resources for the above?
You can do this today with any newfangled languages, just avoid third party libraries, or at least use them as a last resort, and choose options that are stable.
Autoconf is just a complicated system for finding and detecting third party libraries. If an application just uses the standard library, the build system can be very simple and reliable.
Most of your pain is actually due to 'package managers', not build systems per se.