Thank you so much, that’s extremely helpful. Can I ask where you’re from and if you returned there or went somewhere else after Germany?
My wife and I are American but we’re in the UK now, just to see how we like it before committing to a permanent move. We’ve also looked at Germany but I’ve struggled with the language, and although she’s conversationally fluent, I feel like forming deep friendships would be difficult.
one thing i would try is to find friends there before you settle: find groups/communities of interest and join them, travel to go to meetups and conferences. forming deep friendships is always a challenge. we had these discussions on HN before.
my personal experience is that i went wherever i could find a job and i stayed there as long as the job would keep me unless i found another reason to stay. i am happy to share more details by email. (see my profile)
My wife and I are American but we’re in the UK now, just to see how we like it before committing to a permanent move. We’ve also looked at Germany but I’ve struggled with the language, and although she’s conversationally fluent, I feel like forming deep friendships would be difficult.