1. Stop developing. Then you don't have to feel judged for dev work.
2. Stop CTOing. Then you're "just a developer" and you can go back to doing work as a team, where your own personal opinions or decisions should not override those of the team. Being "wrong" is fine, because whatever decision the team comes to is "right", and you all cooperate together to accomplish the shared goal, right or wrong.
3. Continue to be a CTO, continue to write code, but go to therapy and find out the source of your fear, then figure out how to cope with it.
1. Stop developing. Then you don't have to feel judged for dev work.
2. Stop CTOing. Then you're "just a developer" and you can go back to doing work as a team, where your own personal opinions or decisions should not override those of the team. Being "wrong" is fine, because whatever decision the team comes to is "right", and you all cooperate together to accomplish the shared goal, right or wrong.
3. Continue to be a CTO, continue to write code, but go to therapy and find out the source of your fear, then figure out how to cope with it.