Yea we definitely discuss tech decisions as a group. We didn't in the past though and so some of them are poor decisions that have deep implications in the codebase. We're trying to unwind them now. Maybe that is leading to the feelings I have been having.
I don't just mean with your current org, I mean with your wider network of people who understand the issues. With outsiders you get people who aren't invested in the same way, yet have done similar work.