Great comment. I think it's important to remember that being with other people won't necessarily make you feel good. In fact, more generally, nothing in life that you feel you are lacking beyond the basic requirements for survival and dignity will necessarily make you feel a lot better when you have it. There are introverted, largely solitary people who fully enjoy their lives, and there are extremely social people with tons of friends who are miserable most of the time, and vice versa.
It's the same with money or romantic love or fame or physical beauty or success or sex or just about anything else. People who have as much as they could ever want of all those things routinely kill themselves. The only thing that seems to work consistently is learning to challenge that inner voice that tells you aren't enough, don't have enough, etc. etc. and make the most of whatever you do have.
> I think it's important to remember that being with other people won't necessarily make you feel good.
This is something I’ve been coming to terms with a lot lately. I grew up in an abusive family with drug addict parents where neglect was a common thing so I strongly crave attachment. But just because you are physically with other people doesn’t mean that attachment and connections will be formed. In fact, I’ve found in most situations the opposite is true: lackluster interactions that leave me feeling even more disconnected and detached because they feel so vapid, meaningless, and shallow.
I’ve endured quite a lot of pain and found that nothing is quite as painful as feeling completely alone in a room full of friends, family, and/or coworkers.
It's the same with money or romantic love or fame or physical beauty or success or sex or just about anything else. People who have as much as they could ever want of all those things routinely kill themselves. The only thing that seems to work consistently is learning to challenge that inner voice that tells you aren't enough, don't have enough, etc. etc. and make the most of whatever you do have.