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Today I tested a feature in production that integrates with another system where I fetch how much to delay our data feed for some customers. I kinda remembered we were talking about the delay being an extra 5s but the numbers I got from their prod service amounted to an extra 30s. I flagged it up and it turned out all the other people on the team for the other service simply never checked that they actually input the correct data. Luckily they now have time until tomorrow to fix it.

Just a degree in Sid Meiers Civilization

Good old node-gyp. I have absolutely no idea what it even is but it has been giving me errors for what feels like a decade. Mostly via front end build stuff from various projects I have worked on

Same. One day I'll find out what it is.

if you want to know, it's a fork of google gyp, which is a C/C++ project/build system generator. I.e. it's a bit similar to CMAKE, a tool to describe native code projects and what needs to be built in order to make executables and dlls.

It's a python codebase, largely abandoned by google. They used to use it for building Chrome.


i forgot all about node-gyp. The only memories I do have of it are the errors and thinking about gimps.

Meet is as shitty on Safari as Google feels they can get away with

I value the sharpness a lot. So 6K@32 is where it is at for me. Cannot imagine to go back. I have the Dell one and it is a bit ugly with the big camera top but at 2k it is about a third of the Cinema Display XDR

This seems super weird, like a description on how to eat that goes into great detail about food color and smell and how much to put into the mouth exactly then describing the act of chewing as a deliberate movement like learning to golf or something.

So I guess I am not very autistic. It is a good article though if the basic act of talking to other people Is mysterious to you.

I was hoping more of some insight about how to mingle at a max level place like: you on day two in the evening of a conference and everybody knows each other already. People are in deep conversations and you got about 30 minutes to find someone to have dinner with or you will eat alone and not socialize.


If this article seems super weird to you it's possible that's because you are naturally adept at socializing. For many neuro-atypical folks, remedial socialization requires tons of cognitive focus. It's why some people find social activities exhausting.

> that's because you are naturally adept at socializing

People can be bad at socializing for a number of reasons. if you're depressed it can feel like just thinking that everyone hates you and never reaching out

At least for me it gets easier when you don't think, but this guy is giving the opposite advice

I'm sure this advice might be useful to some people but it's probably the opposite of useful for many others


> I'm sure this advice might be useful to some people but it's probably the opposite of useful for many others

This is probably true of any advice.


Here I was thinking in the opposite direction. That it kind of skipped step 0. Why should we want to socialize, why should we care to? Wasn't the work day enough interaction with other humans for one day and why should we feel a need to seek more? I'm not very social lol

> Here I was thinking in the opposite direction. That it kind of skipped step 0. Why should we want to socialize, why should we care to? Wasn't the work day enough interaction with other humans for one day and why should we feel a need to seek more? I'm not very social lol

What you do at work (in offices mainly) is also socializing and for those who have a hard time doing it these bullet points could help somewhat. Nobody can force you to socialize but you basically stop existing for other people if you don't play that game at least from time to time. I am introverted by default but do force myself to socialize at work because it does pay off to some extent. I do find it taxing and depleting on my energy so I limit it socializing to smaller settings. In large settings I simply cannot function for more than 30 minutes unless I poison myself with alcohol. I've had more isolated stretches in my past and socializing had become very hard so the silver lining is that the more you do it the easier it becomes, you may even enjoy it in limited amounts. Also breaking the comfort zone is not pleasant but does open you up for other things.


I think eye contact is key. Usually people avoid eye contact with people they don’t want to associate with. I’m not very sociable myself, and in your case I probably would be eating alone on default. But I have found when people match eye contact and have any semblance of similarity in interest it’s not too bad getting along.

I managed to queue for the provided foosball table and from there it was easy to get the snowball rolling. First 10 minutes before I had that idea were rough though. I was just wandering the hall, seeing if I knew anyone from any context

Man there's nothing like finding a restaurant off the strip, ordering a bottle of wine and a big meal, and just eating and drinking and reading a book for 2 hours while your co-workers are crammed around a 16 person table in a noisy restaurant bar yelling across dinner about KPIs.

I found the book “Never Eat Alone” to be what you are looking for. It has a whole section on how to be a conference commando.

Personally this was very useful for me. I struggle with social anxiety precisely because I'm always worried I'm doing these sorts of very basic actions wrong, and tend to hang up when I need to figure out the next question to ask in a conversation. Yeah, my therapist says I don't need to worry about it, but it's tough for me to go into any situation without being overprepared, so this is helpful for me

I would even buy it out right but the rare movies I am interested in almost never have any distribution. Which is strange since that surely can’t be the most lucrative way to monetize it

If it is a pure STI it can be avoided by celibacy. This is not a protocol most humans are comfortable with though. Unfortunately most disease are just mainly spread through sexual contact and have additional vectors so vaccination might still be preferable


Having children in modern society is pretty isolating. We had it very good because our neighbors have children of similar age and we could share the burdens of cooking and watching them while simultaneously also seeing other adults. If both parents work and you do all your chores you have approximately zero time to socialize outside your immediate vicinity. It takes a village but nobody has a village any longer


At least at 120 hours a week you no longer need a house and can just change at the gym instead.


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