Communism is a philosophy in the first place. It leads to a certain type of governing and managing economy. On practice it also lead into a totalitarian state every single time.
Communes and kibbutzes are almost universally democratically governed, so no it does not lead to a totalitarian state every time. That's a ridiculous claim.
Why do kibbutzim belong to communism? Communism is based on works of Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels. You can't just attach a "communist" tag on every commune that has shared property.
There are plenty of working socialist republics, and democratic communes are alive and well (albeit on a smaller scale).