As somebody who lives in the burbs (in Texas, not SV), I live here because I actively prefer a suburban lifestyle, and the presence of the kind of developments you want would make me move out to the exurbs.
I don't want to live in a "real city". I chose to live in the suburbs because I prefer suburbs.
Fine! But you shouldn't be allowed to squat on desirable locations (ie: places where lots of people work), soaking up the property taxes from business growth while telling everyone who works at the business you love taxing to get out of your suburb.
You want the suburbs? Fine: live in a real suburb with little to no industry, and let the rest of us know how you're keeping the schools and municipal services funded.
Otherwise, let some housing be built, so that people have a place to live. Because the world isn't just about you: it's about everyone else, too.
I don't want to live in a "real city". I chose to live in the suburbs because I prefer suburbs.