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1. Don't worry about the past. There are things you can do now that will be good for the project, the team and for you personally. You have things to contribute.

One of the simplest things you can do is ask for explanations. Listen actively. This is hard, but you will get the hang of it. You might even find that they aren't such jerks after all.

They might feel like you slow them down, until they see the obvious mistake they hadn't thought, then they should be grateful. If they aren't grateful, you are in a bad environment, start looking for greener pastures.

2. It doesn't make sense to do this, it is a waste of good potential, but don't assume malice. Instead, search for something to do that will give you time to catch up. Ask it outright. You are a professional, that implies trust. They trust you to make decisions, they trust you to make the best use of your time, they trust you to refuse a task when you are not up to it or you don't think it should be done. (You might still be required to do it anyway, but you get to have a written complain and you should be able to resign in good terms with everybody. If not, jump ship immediately.)

3. Relationships, even shallow work relationships, take effort. Understanding people is hard. Getting yourself understood is hard. There are plenty of jerks everywhere and sometimes there is no way around it. But sometimes there are workarounds. Few people are jerks all the time. Sometimes it is a misunderstanding. Sometimes you have to negotiate. If after trying other approaches, you still find them with rotten attitudes, find some other place. When you are surrounded by rotten people, life might seem to long.

Improve your communication and political skills[1], that will increase the value of your current technical skills and give you the ways and means to improve them even further. (If you wish so, you might find there is more to life.)

[1] "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is a classic book on the subject.




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