I kind of get that, but, there's nothing wrong with a bratty article, and that's her experience. Should she not write about it? Or should she wait until she fits in with the local men and then write about that?
Or I could say "raise your standards" beyond vanilla, non-challenging, pleasant writing.
I really appreciate the writer's description of her experience, even if 20 years ago it would have hit close to home for me.
Frankly, why should she write an entire article, other than perhaps on her personal blog, to complain that she can't find a man who's good enough for her standards?
>Or I could say "raise your standards" beyond vanilla, non-challenging, pleasant writing.
Ok, you want challenging? Here's challenging: I would find many of the same people insufferable as she does. That doesn't mean I feel a right to go telling the whole world that most people around me are unworthy of love or friendship, and that the world will have to fix itself by importing a fresh supply of people I happen to like.
There was a time when I might have thought like that... at age 15. Well, and maybe up through 19. And I still have a hard time finding real common ground with people who aren't at all nerdy.
But hey, diversity is the spice of life! I like having things I don't understand about explained to me! Just last night at Shabbat dinner, I sat across from a fresh new cellular biology grad-student and asked him what his lab does. I did not dismiss him as a peer, even when I grew disinterested because the talk turned to the various drugs he and some electrical engineering type had indulged in during undergrad. At that point I went over and listened to my friend the host of the house (and twenty-something Lubavitch shaliach to my neighborhood) giving his religious lecture for the evening.
Whom did I dismiss as a social peer, politely ignoring for the rest of the night? The guy who thought there was something unpleasant about describing growth rates using terms like "logarithmic", "linear", "polynomial" and "exponential", who considered me less human for knowing.
This is something that has happened repeatedly to me throughout life, and it leaves me with rather more empathy for the boring nerds the author doesn't like dating than for the stuck-up philosophy-major-turned-journalist who can't be bothered to take an interest in lifestyles beyond the underground hippie/artist/rocker crowd that brought her to Seattle in the '90s. To me, she sounds like an insufferable hipster, coincidentally.
Maybe she'll never take an interest, but these are still human beings, not spoiled meat. Just because I don't like brogrammers or workaholic money-mongers on a personal level doesn't mean that I want them dehumanized, any more than I like being dehumanized for being a nerd. Let's have this subcultural holy war! Why do the hippies and humanities majors get to talk down to the rest of us?
>Frankly, why should she write an entire article
Uhm, I don't know... wasn't there an entire tv series, two movies, and another tv series spinnoff that basically revolved around exactly what this article was discussing? Sure it was in NYC and talked about all men, but still...
IMO this did not deserve downvotes, any more than the original article deserved flags. You might disagree with eli's response, but I think it contributed to the conversation.
I kind of get that, but, there's nothing wrong with a bratty article, and that's her experience. Should she not write about it? Or should she wait until she fits in with the local men and then write about that?
Or I could say "raise your standards" beyond vanilla, non-challenging, pleasant writing.
I really appreciate the writer's description of her experience, even if 20 years ago it would have hit close to home for me.