A more (but probably still imperfect) description of Catholic doctrine would be repentance + forgiveness = reconciliation; either repentance of forgiveness on their own is incomplete, but not undesirable for the party doing it .
> I guess I was fortunate that I was taught forgiveness without genuine repentance on the other side is pointless, and generally not something to do.
> Catholic doctrine, if I remember correctly.
?!?! That's not Catholic doctrine at all. Not that it's well practiced, but Catholics are taught to forgive, period. That doesn't mean forget. Trust, once lost, can be hard to earn back depending on how it was lost. Someone who beats you up can be forgiven, and you can still go out of your way to avoid them or to never let them stand behind you.
Catholic doctrine, if I remember correctly.