Watch out, here comes one of those ever-so-frightening generalizations...
Humans are a learning species. Everything we observe is converted by our brains into data to be filed somewhere, even if it's only temporary storage because we consider it unimportant. This attribute is nearly fundamental to sentience. Let's not get offended when someone wants to learn more about the people around them, and what makes them themselves. This, of course, doesn't justify walking up to someone on the street and invading their personal space and time, but it does mean your vendetta against mental organization and near-automatic pattern matching is misguided.
Quick, tell me about people who can't recall much information at all! No, wait, tell me about people who are vegetative or catatonic and therefore unable to process the events occurring around them and convert them into data! Tell me about people who have a failed mental organizational process! This, naturally, would invalidate all of my claims and finally prove me a bigot.
I am all for learning. But you don't get to decide what other people are going to get offended about.
People in minority groups are understandably sometimes sensitive about people in dominant majorities acting like the minorities are obliged to educate them.
I don't have any particular vendetta against pattern-matching. Being made out of meat, I do it myself. But if it isn't done with respect and politeness, it is at best negligent and at worst arrogant and self-centered. And I definitely have a problem with those behaviors, especially directed at people who already have a hard row to hoe.
Humans are a learning species. Everything we observe is converted by our brains into data to be filed somewhere, even if it's only temporary storage because we consider it unimportant. This attribute is nearly fundamental to sentience. Let's not get offended when someone wants to learn more about the people around them, and what makes them themselves. This, of course, doesn't justify walking up to someone on the street and invading their personal space and time, but it does mean your vendetta against mental organization and near-automatic pattern matching is misguided.
Quick, tell me about people who can't recall much information at all! No, wait, tell me about people who are vegetative or catatonic and therefore unable to process the events occurring around them and convert them into data! Tell me about people who have a failed mental organizational process! This, naturally, would invalidate all of my claims and finally prove me a bigot.