So, you aren't being a judgemental jerk, you are trying to help her. By shaming ...

GeorgeOrr on Oct 9, 2013 | parent | context | favorite | on: My embarrassing picture went viral

So, you aren't being a judgemental jerk, you are trying to help her. By shaming her into doing what you, in your great insight into other peoples lives, have figured out would be best for her.

You are so kind.