I can definitely relate to the feeling. For a full 1.5 years after my ex and I broke up, it felt like my friends were being deliberately cruel, first by continuing to involve her in various events, then by continuously posting about stuff they were doing with her on facebook. For a long time, it felt like they were actively trying to push me out of the picture or drive me to jump. The only difference is, this woman wrote an article about how that feels.
Did you do things with your friends too during that time? Maybe it's just that for them it's less awkward to hang out with either one of you than it is for you two to hang out with each other, and they didn't realize that talking about it on facebook would be awkward for you.
Don't you think it would be a bit demanding on your part if you wanted your friends to stop hanging out with and being friends with your ex? Maybe you should figure out how to get closure on your relationship and move forward in a healthy manner rather than hoping that the rest of the world will coddle and protect a wound that only you could possibly understand or be responsible for.
Maybe these people you call your friends are not really your friends? For if something is affecting you, they should be able to be considerate of your feelings too. Just a thought.
