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That's a really good comment you make, and in the exact spirit to the article. She's right - you do have to just decide not to 'play the game'. We, as a society, can make a difference here by hiring parents with young children or ready to have families, being generous where we can, and making time flexible. The issue at hand really only applies to the status quo which we know can topple at any moment given the right circumstances.



Here's an elegant analogy in this vein (from http://broodwork.com/index.php?/projects/andrew-berardini/, which my wife puts together), by art critic and parent Andrew Berardini:

"Let's say gravity suddenly shifted a little making everyone a little bit lighter. It would likely make the news circuit for a while and make movers and other professional lifters particularly happy. But after the scientists had explained again and again why it happened and all the potential story lines had been exhausted by newspapers and television pundits, religious zealots and idle conversationalists (“How about that gravity?”), we would accept it, perhaps with a individual joy all our own.

Which is to say, even though a slight shift in gravity on Earth literally changes everything on our home planet, after awhile we’d adjust. Occasionally we might think back to the days before gravity changed with wonder and even nostalgia, but we’d know that everything being lighter is just better on one of those annoyingly and truistically difficult-to-communicate levels and continue with the practice of everyday life, with appropriate changes to this new state of lightness.

Parenting for me is something like this."


Thank you for this.




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