You’re already getting a lot of solid advice so I’ll keep mine short.
Video games are not inherently bad. They become a problem only when they’re getting in the way of your other life goals.
So, the best place to start is by asking your son: what do you want to achieve over the next 3-4 years?
Then, try to help him figure out the best way to spend his time to achieve those goals.
I feel strongly that the starting point of the conversation should be alignment around the fact that there isn’t anything inherently wrong with video games. Not only is this the truth, it also establishes that you aren’t judging him.
Video games are not inherently bad. They become a problem only when they’re getting in the way of your other life goals.
So, the best place to start is by asking your son: what do you want to achieve over the next 3-4 years?
Then, try to help him figure out the best way to spend his time to achieve those goals.
I feel strongly that the starting point of the conversation should be alignment around the fact that there isn’t anything inherently wrong with video games. Not only is this the truth, it also establishes that you aren’t judging him.