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> Everyone knew there were introverts and extroverts

Except there are no such things. Intro/Extro are used in the ocean of questionable personality science to describe character traits. Even within some of the "worst" culprits of it, character traits are never considered to be set in stone. Contrary to what you may now think, I'm actually a fan of personality tests like DISC for professional teams. For their actual purpose, however, which is as tools which lets team members talk about their strengths and challenges in a much more open and focused way than simply sitting them down and talking about how to do team work. Especially with introvert/extrovert the whole thing becomes a little silly though, a lot of people will be more introverted one week and then more extroverted another, depending on a multitude factors in their lives. To be fair to the author, she does seem to mostly use it as a way of getting their point across, I just don't like it when people think you can ever describe people as either introverts or extroverts because it's frankly just plain bullshit.

Anyway, when I read the authors complaint about it getting harder to get friends out of their homes I looked up the author's age, and she's 33. Guess what happens in your early thirties? It gets harder to get your friends together, not because they've become introverted but because adult life takes a lot of energy and effort. The last to get children in a social circle are going to feel this the hard way. I'd argue that there are also facts like cost, which the author doesn't go into. I like going to the cinema, but where I live it'll quickly end up being $120 for a ticket and popcorn + soda. Back in 2018 it was maybe $50 and basically nothing of the experience has changed. It's not that I can't afford it, it's more a question of me being a scrooge.

One thing we have done in my friend circle is to get together "at home" more. We'll meet up to cook dinner and play board games while the children play. We still schedule Dungeon and Dragons but the frequency is like 4-8 times a year where it may have been every week before. It also has to happen during the day because evenings aren't a good time to be out with small children in the house. I have a season pass to a themepark where I go with one my friends and our eldest children, we don't actually do a lot of rides we just hang out while the children have fun. Basically post 30 social events will often need to become things where you can bring children or be out from 10-16. Which is very different from your late 20ies, but not necessarily less social.




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