The irony of this response is that I didn't actually claim that you said any of those things. I commented on the book's content and the summary you gave.
Thia reaction of yours is telling though. As well as how you finished your original message:
> niceness has become a huge red flag to me ever since reading that book. I much prefer someone who is good (in competence and/or in behavior) than someone who is nice.
"Niceness" as a red flag? How does that not confirm what I wrote and put you in the camp of those agreeing with the book's message?
Thia reaction of yours is telling though. As well as how you finished your original message:
> niceness has become a huge red flag to me ever since reading that book. I much prefer someone who is good (in competence and/or in behavior) than someone who is nice.
"Niceness" as a red flag? How does that not confirm what I wrote and put you in the camp of those agreeing with the book's message?