I agree with you on a personal level, though again I’m sure if I CTRL+F replika subreddit I’d find many people describing their emotions with similar words.
Anyway, let’s say he was negatively affected by that relationship, IIRC.
It's obviously dystopian to be in love with something that doesn't care about you at all. That is not, at all, what Her depicted. Sam clearly felt for Arthur deeply. Breaking up because their life paths were incompatible doesn't mean she didn't feel anything for him.
