On: The forgotten war on beepers

[wkat4242]

Because they see you're active on WhatsApp or telegram :)

I switched off the blue tickmarks in WhatsApp and even that really triggered people.

[gruez → wkat4242]

Can't you just read messages from the Notification Center if you want to avoid it showing up as "read"?

[1_1xdev1 → gruez]

But then anyone else that can see my phone screen can read them :)

[gruez → 1_1xdev1]

You mean the message contents, or that you received a notification at all? On both ios and android you should be able to configure the notification so the contents are not shown, so it shows that there's a notification from whatsapp but not the message itself.