Two tiny hacks changed my lifelong procrastination and people-pleasing nature.
1. Instead of “what will they think?” always ask yourself the alternative question, “what do I want?”. This saves you a lot of time and trouble. Do what you like to see what people will say. Make it a fun game.
2. If something takes less than 2 minutes, just go do it. Make it your “kick”. After few weeks, work your way to turn 2 minutes to 5 then 10 minutes. You will get so much done because of the inertia.
For me, what help a lot is reframing feedback, whatever it is, as opportunity for learning, and not something you need to fear, ashamed, or get rid of(to keep face) Embrace it. See it with the eyes of curiosity, and not fear.
Still do your best, yes, but not overly anxious about things you can't control, e.g. what people think.
1. Instead of “what will they think?” always ask yourself the alternative question, “what do I want?”. This saves you a lot of time and trouble. Do what you like to see what people will say. Make it a fun game.
2. If something takes less than 2 minutes, just go do it. Make it your “kick”. After few weeks, work your way to turn 2 minutes to 5 then 10 minutes. You will get so much done because of the inertia.