Interesting. I'd never used an android before, and recently got a Pixel 7a on which I am running lineageos. Haven't found any rough edges other than that the home screen sometimes hangs fixed by turning the screen off and on again which takes less than 5s. What rough edges did you encounter?
GrapheneOS did not meet my needs for sovereign control of my own device, and iOS is worse in this regard, so I gave up cell phones entirely 2 years ago. Turns out they are not as necessary as we convince ourselves they are.
I would love not to, but there is not a single human-sized (as in can be operated by human hand) android phone on the market that is also not a slow budget ohone. Now there is no iphone either, but the last minis should last a while.