I still use a 2020SE and experience apps reloading all the time. I cannot keep more than 2 apps reliably in memory at any point. This includes Safari, youtube, reddit (honestly a poorly made app), spotify etc - fairly "common" ones.
Reddit is an especially appalling platform and the only thing more appalling than that is their doubling down on “app vs web” all the while having terrible UX and performance as you say. Something something about Conway’s Law I’m guessing :P
Yeah that's the actual truth, but Apple fanboys will tell you otherwise.
Even though I use an iPhone/Apple Watch/Mac Mini I regularly have to explain to many of them what kind of nonsense Apple puts their user through considering the price they sell their devices. They always have some pretty dumb excuse, so sad it is really frustrating. And it's all in the name of margin. They put severe limitation in their already expensive base device for the sole purpose of maximizing margin and upselling. Because 100B of profit per year is not enough of course. If you look at it as a user, the massive profit they have been making did not translate to anything better, in fact quite the reverse.
Personally, I'm out of there. They finally squeezed me out, I guess I'm a bad customer, I'm not willing to spend enough money. But fine so I am going to spend my cash elsewhere.
In defense of the poorly made apps, it just is a reflection of the general market. Mid-range Android phone have double the amount of RAM of entry level iPhone at half the price. The pressure to optimize is not very strong and I can't blame them. It's not worth spending hours of expensive engineering time on optimisation. It would still have limitations and at some point when you need more RAM to fit more data, you just need more RAM, you cannot "optimise" the problem away. All of this would be solved by more/bigger RAM chips that cost a dollar at worst.
If Apple wasn't so greedy it would be a non-issue.
So I think those developer have the right mindset, fuck Apple and if you are an Apple user either you spend more for the real deal or go look somewhere else for a more sensibly priced device.