On: Are you a late bloomer in work or love? Maybe you’...

[neilv]

> At least when it comes to love and marriage I definitely think settling that in yours 20s is best,

Careful to read it as "settling that" -- no one should feel like they're "settling", for something other than what they want. :)

(This can involve changing your mind about what you want, though.)

[jprete → neilv]

I understand the sentiment, but I think plenty of people do in fact need to "settle", because they have unrealistic expectations and are very unlikely to get what they want.

[neilv → jprete]

Will a relationship more likely be successful, if they're not still thinking of it as "settling" by the time that they commit?