I actually do know a few older childfree folks who are quite happy with their hobbies and have no regrets, but the sample size there is so small as to be worthless. And there's probably a sizable generation gap there too, since it wasn't always this socially acceptable to not have kids (especially women). We probably won't see the societal impacts for another few decades.
But statistics aside, I think there is also a deliberate tradeoff there in terms of optimizing for the present vs the future. Some folks think of children as an investment for their future, someone to take care of them and provide companionship when they're older... but often at the cost of surrendering several decades of their mid-life for child rearing.
Conversely, for those who don't want kids, some of us choose to frontload our life's pursuits towards the prime middle years instead, traveling and doing stuff and meeting new people etc. while we're still physically healthy mentally sharp. Some chronic illness is always around the corner, and being stuck with disabilities in a nursing home, with or without kids, doesn't really excite.
Not having kids means planning for the future is a bit different, not just in finances but also risks and costs. We can choose to make a planned exit at some point without that decision being blocked by next of kin, opting for some happy accident doing something fun (space travel? free solo climbing? or just medication). I'd much rather shave off a decade or two of my life if that means a higher quality of life for the preceding decades... quality, not quantity :) Even without something that drastic, planning for retirement looks very different when you have no college funds or weddings to save for. Even homeownership (which is largely out of reach for my generation anyway) ceases to be as important a consideration. You can live more fully in the present time, instead of forever optimizing for some future state that may or may not ever come.
And that's to say nothing of where society will be in 40-50 years... probably not gonna be pretty, lol, and not something I'd want to subject kids (or myself) to unless we make drastic improvements.
In the meantime, though, what we have is the here and now. Might as well live it now instead of worrying about living it someday later.
But statistics aside, I think there is also a deliberate tradeoff there in terms of optimizing for the present vs the future. Some folks think of children as an investment for their future, someone to take care of them and provide companionship when they're older... but often at the cost of surrendering several decades of their mid-life for child rearing.
Conversely, for those who don't want kids, some of us choose to frontload our life's pursuits towards the prime middle years instead, traveling and doing stuff and meeting new people etc. while we're still physically healthy mentally sharp. Some chronic illness is always around the corner, and being stuck with disabilities in a nursing home, with or without kids, doesn't really excite.
Not having kids means planning for the future is a bit different, not just in finances but also risks and costs. We can choose to make a planned exit at some point without that decision being blocked by next of kin, opting for some happy accident doing something fun (space travel? free solo climbing? or just medication). I'd much rather shave off a decade or two of my life if that means a higher quality of life for the preceding decades... quality, not quantity :) Even without something that drastic, planning for retirement looks very different when you have no college funds or weddings to save for. Even homeownership (which is largely out of reach for my generation anyway) ceases to be as important a consideration. You can live more fully in the present time, instead of forever optimizing for some future state that may or may not ever come.
And that's to say nothing of where society will be in 40-50 years... probably not gonna be pretty, lol, and not something I'd want to subject kids (or myself) to unless we make drastic improvements.
In the meantime, though, what we have is the here and now. Might as well live it now instead of worrying about living it someday later.