Now what are the chances that a woman would get pregnant at 51?
It is what it is. While I’m an only child and will never have biological grandchildren (married and by choice), my aunt who is 82 years old has been able to see her two daughters get married and have six kids and between those six kids have four kids.
The tradeoffs are real.
> This time, quitting her job led to a debut solo album, television appearances and sold-out shows
And for every one of her, there are thousands of singers in obscurity that are probably just as talented making $.0006 per play on Spotify and doing free gigs for tips at the local nightclub.
Life is what it is, but not meeting those deadlines have real consequences. I’m no wunderkind. While I was on a perfect timeline up until I was 32 - graduated at 22, house and married at 28, etc - it’s probably because I did feel pressure that I had to start over between 32-34 (2006).
But, myself and my best friend since high school were on similar paths through high school and college - top of our classes (we went to different schools), went to the same college on academic scholarships, etc. I know what the road not taken looks like. He got married at 26 and been married for 20+ years and didn’t give up half his stuff because of divorce at 32. He captured the upside from real estate and didn’t make as many dumb decisions before he was 35.
Again, I’m not jealous nor have I ever been.
While he has literally 6 times more saved than I do for retirement and he is one day younger than I am, I made the best of my situation of being an empty nester and a remote worker so I don’t have to retire to enjoy the life of a retired person (see the second link). You play with the cards you are dealt.
I told him a long time ago that I realize that we aren’t on the same road and I’m always pushing for him. We are both in a good place now.
Now what are the chances that a woman would get pregnant at 51?
It is what it is. While I’m an only child and will never have biological grandchildren (married and by choice), my aunt who is 82 years old has been able to see her two daughters get married and have six kids and between those six kids have four kids.
The tradeoffs are real.
> This time, quitting her job led to a debut solo album, television appearances and sold-out shows
And for every one of her, there are thousands of singers in obscurity that are probably just as talented making $.0006 per play on Spotify and doing free gigs for tips at the local nightclub.
Life is what it is, but not meeting those deadlines have real consequences. I’m no wunderkind. While I was on a perfect timeline up until I was 32 - graduated at 22, house and married at 28, etc - it’s probably because I did feel pressure that I had to start over between 32-34 (2006).
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36377647
So, yeah I was a late bloomer and while please play the smallest fiddle for me:
https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=36306966
But, myself and my best friend since high school were on similar paths through high school and college - top of our classes (we went to different schools), went to the same college on academic scholarships, etc. I know what the road not taken looks like. He got married at 26 and been married for 20+ years and didn’t give up half his stuff because of divorce at 32. He captured the upside from real estate and didn’t make as many dumb decisions before he was 35.
Again, I’m not jealous nor have I ever been.
While he has literally 6 times more saved than I do for retirement and he is one day younger than I am, I made the best of my situation of being an empty nester and a remote worker so I don’t have to retire to enjoy the life of a retired person (see the second link). You play with the cards you are dealt.
I told him a long time ago that I realize that we aren’t on the same road and I’m always pushing for him. We are both in a good place now.