The peak of social aspiration is not the the same thing as being normal. In fact, you can't possibly be cool and be normal at the same time (otherwise the average person would be cool which isn't the case).
The uncool are all uncool in more or less the same way, but the cool are all cool differently. This is why you can have cool queer people, cool conservatives, cool liberals, cool socialists, cool communists. Coolness has an inevitable character of transgression against norms. It is an expression of the basic human need to rethink and revise normal behavior, presumably in search of other ways of living that might be more productive, pleasurable, just, aesthetically pleasing, whatever. This is a necessary part of a functioning society. Queer people, among others, are a part of it.
Analyzing coolness doesn't make you uncool. Getting bent out of shape because someone wrote a fun little essay about being queer and slime molds might.
The uncool are all uncool in more or less the same way, but the cool are all cool differently. This is why you can have cool queer people, cool conservatives, cool liberals, cool socialists, cool communists. Coolness has an inevitable character of transgression against norms. It is an expression of the basic human need to rethink and revise normal behavior, presumably in search of other ways of living that might be more productive, pleasurable, just, aesthetically pleasing, whatever. This is a necessary part of a functioning society. Queer people, among others, are a part of it.
Analyzing coolness doesn't make you uncool. Getting bent out of shape because someone wrote a fun little essay about being queer and slime molds might.