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It seems like this quote gets to to heart of the issue:

> a relationship isn’t an activity (like a job, hobby, or sport) to try and quit when you don’t like it. It requires two people, and you must find a second person willing to try. Finding someone is hard, though. This brings me back to what I said a few paragraphs ago; I don’t see myself ready to invest much in something I’m not even sure I want. Also, if it doesn’t work out, I’m scared of leaving a broken heart in another person.

I would say that for many people a relationship are something to try and quit when you don't like it. It is easy to get caught up in what-ifs and commitment fears, but stakes are extremely low for starting one.

This reminds me of people who build up a first kiss or first sex into some monumental event. It seems important or daunting for someone who hasn't done it, but once it has happened, most of that importance instantly evaporates.

I also find the last fear of breaking the someone's heart infantilizing. You can't take ownership of other people's choices. Treat them as adults and let them take the risks they choose to.




I respectfully disagree. Some people cannot help but be very heavily emotionally invested.


So they should be stripped of their right to choose what they want?

Why shouldn't they be able to make decisions based on their emotions and why aren't they valid?




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