I wish it was shareable. If she presented my son to her breasts with a certain posture, he would latch without any issues. If she didn't, then it would hurt her immensely. I want to say the lactation consultant "smashed" the boy's head to the breast, getting his mouth full before he had a chance to do anything, but its been 15 years. I think the biggest thing to learn is that works for one may not work for another. Keep searching with optimism.