No, that is not what I said. Aside from that fact that these two fields are hardly exact sciences and have different schools of thought with large fundamental disagreements, I never said that all of psychology is bad. I specifically said "Not that counsellors are bad, but sometimes [...]".
In my specific case it didn't help and was more harmful than helpful. For other people it is helpful. n=1 but I'm probably not a very special individual, so situations similar to mine probably apply to other people as well, although I have no idea how many exactly, or if this number has been increasing or decreasing.
> Either you are in denial or a whole field of science is wrong.
The value of the advice to "man up," is that there exists a good way to be and you have to make some basic effort to help yourself before others will help you.
The field in question is psychology and its appendant body, psychiatry, who you may remember from such treatments as trepanation, lobotomy, chemical castration, solitary confinement, valium, re-parenting, diagnoses like hysteria, and the APA's most recent forfeit of any remaining credibility with "toxic masculinity" - to say nothing of what it is doing to actual children in the last decade.
To be clear, psychology isn't a science, it's a critical theory of mind. It uses drugs, dresses itself up in some limited statistics from "social science" and prances in front of the mirror saying it's doing chemistry and biology. Therapy and drugs help some people by reducing their suffering, but it's a pretext, not an empirical inquiry into the nature of matter.
Are you suggesting that people should ignore their personal experiences if they do not align with what the science tells them? Why would you declare that anyone is in denial about their own reality?
Practically you are saying that pedagogy and psychology are wrong and harmful on a fundamental level.
Either you are in denial or a whole field of science is wrong.