However, that kind of attitude and frame will not work well for a healthy relationship. People’s feelings are not outcomes you can manage your way towards.
You are, of course, free to do as you like. I’m just sharing some hard-earned experience.
You're not reading what I'm writing. You cannot improve yourself without at some point stepping through an inauthentic phase where you are forcing yourself to try shit that you have no idea what you are doing.
"staying authentic" a priori prevents you from learning healthy relationship dynamics. You will never get there in the first place.
However, that kind of attitude and frame will not work well for a healthy relationship. People’s feelings are not outcomes you can manage your way towards.
You are, of course, free to do as you like. I’m just sharing some hard-earned experience.