You seem to be extrapolating a lot from a single turn of phrase but the fact remains that while Apple's kernel is satisfactory, it's not really considered best of bread in anything other than maybe dtrace support.
So I'm sorry I offended you with my salty language but the evidence suggests I'm far from the only one that went ignored at Apple.
Some people seem unaware that others take issue with how they communicate and not what they communicate
the way you are responding to some one who asked you a pretty mild question (assuming they were personally offended rather than asking about a potential communication issue) suggests there is some validity here.
So I'm sorry I offended you with my salty language but the evidence suggests I'm far from the only one that went ignored at Apple.