There is also something powerful to have kids who want to spend time with you on holidays and so on, because they had a good relationship with you. Kids are not just the time you raise them, even if they are mostly active in 20 year span of your life. And if you care about your children, treat them and raise them well, in some ways they will be the most stable relationship you ever have.
A lot of relationships go sour, and IMO I think it's fairly difficult for even the married-forevers to say if their relationship stays good. There is also more conflicts of interest with your spousal partner than there are with children in many ways. Your partner is major, but so is your friends, your kids, your family and there isn't a silver bullet for any of them.
A lot of relationships go sour, and IMO I think it's fairly difficult for even the married-forevers to say if their relationship stays good. There is also more conflicts of interest with your spousal partner than there are with children in many ways. Your partner is major, but so is your friends, your kids, your family and there isn't a silver bullet for any of them.