> Folks who grew up in affluent households will venmo for the salsa.
This is a broad generalization that's actually the inverse of what I've seen, and I'm willing to bet I've interacted with an order of magnitude more "grew up affluent" types than the author, having grown up in one of the richest suburbs in the US.
Maybe it depends on the kind of wealth, but in my social circles (both growing up and now) anyone who did something like ask for a $6 Venmo would be laughed out of the room, and if they were serious people would Start Talking about them. That is Just Not Done, people pick up small tabs and (sometimes) split large ones and don't think about it at all, to do otherwise is considered extremely crass. Any fights over tabs are usually of the alpha male variety where paying the tab is a sign of dominance (and I've seen those fights get weird, with people ninja-settling in secret before the check shows up just so they can say "it's already taken care of" and then angry fights erupting afterwards because someone else had expected to pay).
Yes, there is a careless and/or arrogant disregard for money, but it does not usually come across as penny pinching and counting what other people owe you, it's more the type of thing where they'll casually assume everyone in the party would be thrilled to go to a $400/person restaurant for a celebration, not for a moment realizing how much of a stretch that is for the younger/less rich in the group and what a hard position it puts them in.
I think the word the author is looking for to pick out the kind of person who sends a Venmo request for a coffee is "asshole", not "grew up wealthy". I feel like they have some axe to grind here and have ended up severely overgeneralizing as a result...
There's also the possibility that it's related to cliques. Since you grew up around very wealthy people, you are socially "one of them". How they treat you, and how they treat someone a bit lower on their social hierarchy, may be very different.
This is a broad generalization that's actually the inverse of what I've seen, and I'm willing to bet I've interacted with an order of magnitude more "grew up affluent" types than the author, having grown up in one of the richest suburbs in the US.
Maybe it depends on the kind of wealth, but in my social circles (both growing up and now) anyone who did something like ask for a $6 Venmo would be laughed out of the room, and if they were serious people would Start Talking about them. That is Just Not Done, people pick up small tabs and (sometimes) split large ones and don't think about it at all, to do otherwise is considered extremely crass. Any fights over tabs are usually of the alpha male variety where paying the tab is a sign of dominance (and I've seen those fights get weird, with people ninja-settling in secret before the check shows up just so they can say "it's already taken care of" and then angry fights erupting afterwards because someone else had expected to pay).
Yes, there is a careless and/or arrogant disregard for money, but it does not usually come across as penny pinching and counting what other people owe you, it's more the type of thing where they'll casually assume everyone in the party would be thrilled to go to a $400/person restaurant for a celebration, not for a moment realizing how much of a stretch that is for the younger/less rich in the group and what a hard position it puts them in.
I think the word the author is looking for to pick out the kind of person who sends a Venmo request for a coffee is "asshole", not "grew up wealthy". I feel like they have some axe to grind here and have ended up severely overgeneralizing as a result...