> The first issue is your friendships begin tracking your life stage. Using a normative example, single people will tend to be friends with single people and married people will tend to be friends with other married people. Likewise, people will children will tend to be friends with other people with children.
This has been the hardest thing about being in my 30s as a single (and not particularly looking) lesbian woman. It's an unusual enough life choice that there just plain isn't a friendship pool. Most single people my age are low-key using their friend gatherings to look for partners. So my options for friends are either much older or much younger. I have more in common with the kids (gaming, techy stuff, etc.) but society says you're a creep if you do that so I'm basically alone. It sucks.
I don't want a partner, but man I wish I wanted one.
This has been the hardest thing about being in my 30s as a single (and not particularly looking) lesbian woman. It's an unusual enough life choice that there just plain isn't a friendship pool. Most single people my age are low-key using their friend gatherings to look for partners. So my options for friends are either much older or much younger. I have more in common with the kids (gaming, techy stuff, etc.) but society says you're a creep if you do that so I'm basically alone. It sucks.
I don't want a partner, but man I wish I wanted one.