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"Someone to talk to, someone to depend on, and someone to enjoy."

Perhaps this is just due to the fact that I've never had a friend, but I'm not sure what the difference is between what the professor is describing and say a sex worker or escort. So long as the client can afford to, all of those criteria are fulfilled.

Is there something I'm missing?




>Is there something I'm missing?

Yes, but it's difficult to describe in words.

Part of it is the reassurance of knowing that there's someone you can depend on when times get tough. An escort wouldn't help you back onto your feet if you lost everything; they'd just move onto the next client.

The "talk" you get from a paid relationship is different too. For starters, they're not going to risk losing your business by telling you a difficult truth that you need to hear. This could cause you to become offended, after all, and isn't their place to tell you.


yes. A friend is also someone that depends on you, that enjoys you, that is excited when they see you.


That sounds like a dog.


That sounds like a dog.

Dogs are pack animals, just as humans are, and part of the reason we like them, is because they have and bond via traits we... wait for it... like!

And while dogs have a very specific place in our society, that does not mean human friendships, built upon the same ideals and core fundamentals, are the same.

But you knew that, I presume?


They dont call dogs mans best friend for no reason.


I love my dog almost as much as I love my friends, but I’d feel sorry for someone who isn’t able to see the difference between the kinds of joy those relationships can bring a person.


I agree with Cat Stevens:

  I love my dog as much as I love you
  But you may fade, my dog will always come through
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ET5drt_utUY


Dogs of course evolved these qualities for survival, and to collaborate with people. A dog must ensure their owner lives them.


A friend will tell you you're an asshole. Paid help might, but only after being paid.


Yes. Bribing someone so you can rape them for an hour or so is very different to nurturing a relationship of trust over a period of months or years.


If things on your life seem dark right now, know that its temporary. Getting help is always an option

Bribing and rape? Explain?


I prefer not to use the "sex worker" euphemism. Those who have exited this abusive industry often refer to it as paid rape, so I follow their lead on this.

Also in fact it is often not even a bribe, in cases of sex slavery and human trafficking. The john is paying someone else to organize the rape for him.


That seems like a biased sample. People who exit are obviously people who didn't want to be in the industry. Try talking to people in it willingly.


Why are people so quick to remove all agency from women?

I find it hard to believe these women have no other options than to sell their body.




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