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I agree, quality is more important than quantity.

There's a common sentiment on social media that you must cherish every single moment possible with your child or you'll regret it later. While well-meaning, this can lead to parents being guilted into having no boundaries.

Setting aside time for yourself is just as important. It makes you less stressed, helps kids develop independence, and models healthy boundary-setting. For example, spending 5-10 minutes fully engaged playing with your child is much more valuable than spending an hour halfheartedly playing with them while your mind is wandering elsewhere.

Don't let numbers like "only 12 summers" create a ticking doom clock over your head, or constantly second-guess yourself, "did I spend enough time with my kids today?" Parents have enough stress as it is.

I'm not saying you should ignore your kids on the weekdays and only spend time with them on the weekends, just that you should not feel guilty about setting boundaries and taking time for yourself sometimes.

(Also: I do agree that spending time outdoors is very healthy and important, but I consider that to be a separate issue.)




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