> It is really hard retraining the brain it seems.
Have you tried seeing a therapist? A good therapist works a bit like a coach (think: "sports coach", not "live coach" whatever the fuck that means). We're notoriously bad at spotting unproductive thought patterns, and having someone with an unbiased perspective and the right expertise really helps. It takes years, but so far it has been the most effective way of doing so, for me.
Also, you can keep rationalising as much as you want, but your meat sponge is not a rational, logical machine. The average HN reader might make the mistake of believing otherwise (include me on this list). Your amygdala doesn't give a shit, however.
Speaking from personal experience here, hope it didn't come across as patronising. I just noticed that many of the things you've said sound familiar.
It'd probably be the healthy thing to do but I don't have the money, the time or the ability since my physical health hasn't recovered yet. Also I find the idea of talking about my feelings to a complete stranger unappealing.
But anyway I'm not complaining, it's not too bad, I've solved the more debilitating aspects through personal work and the rest I can live with until I figure out a way to get rid of it.
I didn't take it to be patronizing, I appreciate the advice.
Have you tried seeing a therapist? A good therapist works a bit like a coach (think: "sports coach", not "live coach" whatever the fuck that means). We're notoriously bad at spotting unproductive thought patterns, and having someone with an unbiased perspective and the right expertise really helps. It takes years, but so far it has been the most effective way of doing so, for me.
Also, you can keep rationalising as much as you want, but your meat sponge is not a rational, logical machine. The average HN reader might make the mistake of believing otherwise (include me on this list). Your amygdala doesn't give a shit, however.
Speaking from personal experience here, hope it didn't come across as patronising. I just noticed that many of the things you've said sound familiar.