On "Are you in pain?". I have a not-insignificant back injury that's connected to my sciatic nerve. I've found "are you in pain" to be much too broad of a question, because now I've learned to live with pain. Instead, the question is, "Is your pain running your life today?" If yes, then I need to do something about it; if no, that'll do.
To me, "self-care" to me is about maximizing how I can spend my life that day. If I spend all day self-caring, I am not living.
On "Are you in pain?". I have a not-insignificant back injury that's connected to my sciatic nerve. I've found "are you in pain" to be much too broad of a question, because now I've learned to live with pain. Instead, the question is, "Is your pain running your life today?" If yes, then I need to do something about it; if no, that'll do.
To me, "self-care" to me is about maximizing how I can spend my life that day. If I spend all day self-caring, I am not living.