The data showing 99% of perpetrators are male doesn’t count forcible envelopment as rape. In order to rape a man a woman has to penetrate him in some way for example sticking a finger in his ass.
Men share more than the possession of a penis, of course. But saying the possession of a penis doesn't make men more dangerous in the face of male rape is like saying that a pistol doesn't make a man more dangerous.
The data really really doesn't support your view. Men are objectively more dangerous.
https://www.statista.com/statistics/251886/murder-offenders-...
https://stoprape.humboldt.edu/statistics
An estimated 91% of victims of rape & sexual assault are female and 9% male. Nearly 99% of perpetrators are male