The weight of the object is not its mass. The weight is the force an object experiences due to a gravity. You have the same mass on the Earth and the Moon, but you weigh 1/6 of your weight on Earth on the Moon because of the gravitational force is 1/6th the strength of Earth's gravitational force.
The definition of mass is subtler, but you seem to confusing units with the definition of the concept. Units are necessary because you need a scale to measure physical properties. You can't measure a length and say that it's "ten". You needs units attached like feet or meters. An eV (electronvolt) is a unit of energy. Just like a kilogram (unit of mass) originally was defined as the mass of a 10cm x 10cm x 10cm cube of water at room temperature, the eV (unit of energy) is defined as the increase in kinetic energy of an electron (which has a fixed and known charge) accelerated across 1 volt. But neither the definition of the kilogram or the eV define the concepts of mass or energy, they just merely define units, which humans chose, used to measure mass or energy.
Now how does mass and energy relate to each other? Simply put, the Special Theory of Relativity, developed by Einstein in 1905, states that mass and energy are equivalent to each other. Now the word "equivalent" has a precise but complicated meaning that I will not explain here (if you do want to understand it, take a course in special relativity). This relation is defined quantitatively by E=mc^2 (Energy E equals mass m times the speed of light c squared). Let's first look at another relationship, distance = velocity * time. This equation can be be rewritten as distance/time = velocity. If we use meters to measure distance and seconds to measure time, we can "divide" the units and define the units of velocity as a meters per second or m/s. Same thing with E=mc^2. We can rewrite the mass m as m = E/c^2, and let the units of mass be eV/c^2. Using eV/c^2 or kilograms or whatever to measure mass has no effect on the definition of the concept mass itself (which you can think of as an intrinsic property of objects independent of units which affects their behavior in known ways).
Why do physicists make all of this so complicated? They don't. It is reality that is subtle and complex and hard to understand. Because the purpose of physics is to describe reality, it has to be subtle and complicated.
The definition of mass is subtler, but you seem to confusing units with the definition of the concept. Units are necessary because you need a scale to measure physical properties. You can't measure a length and say that it's "ten". You needs units attached like feet or meters. An eV (electronvolt) is a unit of energy. Just like a kilogram (unit of mass) originally was defined as the mass of a 10cm x 10cm x 10cm cube of water at room temperature, the eV (unit of energy) is defined as the increase in kinetic energy of an electron (which has a fixed and known charge) accelerated across 1 volt. But neither the definition of the kilogram or the eV define the concepts of mass or energy, they just merely define units, which humans chose, used to measure mass or energy.
Now how does mass and energy relate to each other? Simply put, the Special Theory of Relativity, developed by Einstein in 1905, states that mass and energy are equivalent to each other. Now the word "equivalent" has a precise but complicated meaning that I will not explain here (if you do want to understand it, take a course in special relativity). This relation is defined quantitatively by E=mc^2 (Energy E equals mass m times the speed of light c squared). Let's first look at another relationship, distance = velocity * time. This equation can be be rewritten as distance/time = velocity. If we use meters to measure distance and seconds to measure time, we can "divide" the units and define the units of velocity as a meters per second or m/s. Same thing with E=mc^2. We can rewrite the mass m as m = E/c^2, and let the units of mass be eV/c^2. Using eV/c^2 or kilograms or whatever to measure mass has no effect on the definition of the concept mass itself (which you can think of as an intrinsic property of objects independent of units which affects their behavior in known ways).
Why do physicists make all of this so complicated? They don't. It is reality that is subtle and complex and hard to understand. Because the purpose of physics is to describe reality, it has to be subtle and complicated.