Thank you very much for answering, although it is a very personal thing to ask about.
I guess I should get an official opinion. Nevertheless, diagnosed or not, virtualizing people seems like it could work for me, although it seems to take a significant amount of time for each person to work.
It took a lot of time to optimize the process. Once you get used to understanding people individually, pattern emerge and you can generalize a few things. I have a number of mental guardrails like: If (person) is (things), then don't express (idea).
IF my dad IS talking about (politics|religion) THEN do not enter discussion.
I guess I should get an official opinion. Nevertheless, diagnosed or not, virtualizing people seems like it could work for me, although it seems to take a significant amount of time for each person to work.