What if I like just saying “Hello” up front for reasons I find just as valid as the reasons you don’t like “Hello”?
(For the record, I don’t — I agree with “No hello”.)
But being “upfront about your preference” is basically saying my preference trumps your preference.
And to the OPs point, it makes me hesitate to even engage in the first place.
I have people that communicate with me in ways that I don’t communicate with others, and even if it can sometimes be annoying, that’s more my problem than it is theirs.
Having said that, I think generally discussing the pros/cons of communication can be fine and helps bring to light things others may not have thought about.
I’m just not sure I would be quick to engage with someone that goes out of their way to tell me how I should communicate with them.
> What if I like just saying “Hello” up front for reasons I find just as valid as the reasons you don’t like “Hello”?
Then you should ask yourself if the reason you're sending this message if that you want something from them (in which case you should accommodate their preferences) or if you're just talking to please yourself (do it your way).
there's nothing wrong with that. there are valid reasons to say just hello. but if someone asks me to not I can do them the favor to consider my reasons and their preference.
preferences can't trump each other. it's simply information that helps communication.
and if someone just says hi and the other party gets mad for not respecting their preference, that's a different thing. that's their inflexibility and arrogance for thinking that people need to respect their preference.
that said, if someone initiates communication because they want something from someone it makes sense to be nice to them after all the sender wants something. but it's just that, an opportunity to be considerate of the other. (I'm not even sure I'd notice it in someone's slack status even if I'm DMing them. but I try to accommodate my coworkers' communication preferences, because remote work is already too alienating in itself, yet there are days when I just ask them to type instead of voice chat, etc.)
um, I don't find it passive at all. I don't do this, nor have I saw this, but if someone really has negative experiences with others and decides to put this into their status, that is pretty much the opposite of passive aggressive behavior, it seems to me like basic assertive communication (state your preference, talk about what you want/need)
why is this too far? :o