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Not sure about the studies that are listed below. Honestly I just kind of try to understand the patterns / feelings and try to see whether its really intrinsic or something else.

But here is a good tip, people who want to stay in touch, will be in touch.

People who want to stay in touch and are busy will respond, are happy that you reached out and will suggest a catch-up

Rest is well, not worth your effort.

You can easily feel the vibe and if you would be a person I knew or met at some point I would be: "Wow so great to hear from you!"

I had this case last year when I reached out to an acquaintance, whom I helped back in the days and suggested a "catch-up over a zoom". To which he said he can't allocate time right now as he is busy. Had the same happened on Twitter. It felt a bit painful at first but then people are just living a busy life these days. Its a weird world that nobody experienced before...

So don't worry about these feelings, just do it anyways and worst case scenario you have a great catch-up and happy memories.




> But here is a good tip, people who want to stay in touch, will be in touch.

This flies in the face of the whole point of OP's post. It's hard to stay in touch. Even when you want to. I have at least 2-3 friends who were very good friends at one point and who I'd like to be good friends with again but we just don't keep in regular contact. When we do talk its great but for some reason or another we don't talk often.




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