I think this is on you. Take a break from the news and from the chatter. I too read Lily's trans explanation for the Matrix. Unlike you, I wasn't triggered by the film. I didn't even think about it too much and, when I did think about it, it wasn't anything negative.
Getting triggered would be how some reacted to The Last Temptation of Christ by Martin Scorsese. I was the opposite. I was untriggered by this Matrix. I'm uninterested because I predicted (correctly it seems) that this Matrix was going to be a dull and uninteresting film.