Some may go to a party to "hook up." Some may go to a party to score some drugs. Some may go to a party to network. The author of the article goes to the party to have intellectual conversations. The author didn't get his intellectual conversations, but he could have wrote the same article about coming up dry in scoring some drugs.
I feel the author is missing an opportunity to practice creative adaptation in these parties. Don't go into the party with a specific frame. Instead, try on different frames as you speak with different people. Maybe create frames which you have never attempted. Or just wing it and see how it turns out.
If you make it about any one thing, you'll be disappointed, but you'll also miss an opportunity to make that moment of life interesting rather than a disappointment by going in with a more fluid presence.
Some may go to a party to "hook up." Some may go to a party to score some drugs. Some may go to a party to network. The author of the article goes to the party to have intellectual conversations. The author didn't get his intellectual conversations, but he could have wrote the same article about coming up dry in scoring some drugs.
I feel the author is missing an opportunity to practice creative adaptation in these parties. Don't go into the party with a specific frame. Instead, try on different frames as you speak with different people. Maybe create frames which you have never attempted. Or just wing it and see how it turns out.
If you make it about any one thing, you'll be disappointed, but you'll also miss an opportunity to make that moment of life interesting rather than a disappointment by going in with a more fluid presence.
Don't forget about how to play.