The way I see this, my sexual preferences has nothing to do with software development. I know a bunch of people disagree, sometimes even claim you can't develop software without sexuality but that's actually discriminating against asexual individuals and often against people on the spectrum that are not in able to express their feelings. It's all deeply troubling.
In my language (non-indoeropean ) there is no difference between he and she, that regularly puts me into trouble for somehow "intentionally" mis-gendering others and there's never any lenience expressed towards me for that.
